For Men

If you and your partner are concerned about an unplanned pregnancy, you may feel confused and overwhelmed. Whatcom Community Pregnancy Center (WCPC) is here for both of you.

Here’s some good advice for men that you may find helpful right now:

The Dos

  • Listen. The situation involves more than just you. There are now three lives to think about.
  • Stay Calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are both parents. Regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you, too.
  • Talk about it. Discuss your feelings not only with each other, but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.
  • Gather all the facts. Seek out information and wise counsel, so you can make the best decision for both of you.
  • Express yourself honestly. It’s normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear. Communicate openly about your feelings, while making sure she knows she is not alone.

The Don’ts

  • Don’t bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
  • Don’t pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team.
  • Don’t forget. You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as sharing your thoughts.

The first thing you need to do is find out if your partner is really pregnant and learn about your options. WCPC provides confidential and free pregnancy testing services, along with many support services. We are here to help both of you come to an informed decision. To show your support, go with her for the pregnancy test appointment. If she truly is pregnant, then she is already feeling hormone changes that can have a great effect on her. Having your support will reassure her that you care.

Clear your mind and listen to what your partner is saying. Try to understand her feelings. Gather information about the options available to her. Talk to family and friends you trust for support. We are here to provide caring, free and confidential help for you and your partner.

Whatcom County Pregnancy Center can help you in a variety of ways. We offer classes on pregnancy, parenting and other practical topics as well as countless referrals to helpful organizations.

Remember the decision is ultimately hers to make. You should be able to express your opinion but you should never force her into a decision.

Men, it’s time to stand up and take part in your pregnant partner’s life. She needs to know that you care and are ready to walk through this with her. We’re here to help both of you through it.